Facebook friends
I do not like the online chat feature of Facebook. I don't like boxes popping up from people I haven't got time to talk to, and I can't keep up, and so I tend to stay offline, but every now and then I pop online because I get a dose of Fomo (fear of missing out).
Yesterday, I snuck on, to find my childhood best friend online. We have been Facebook friends, in the loosest of senses, for a couple of years, but have barely even texted one another. She was my best friend from the age of six, to eighteen, my friend and confidante during all of my 'firsts'.
We spent hours discussing, first dolls, then wanting to be actresses, through first crushes, first kisses, and on until our first year of University where I think we argued over nothing, and that was that. I bumped into her once, a couple of years later, which was awkward and not terribly pleasant, (my fault), and hadn't seen her in almost twenty years before finding her on Facebook two years ago.
Yesterday, I typed 'Hello', in a box. She typed back. Two hours later, we were still frantically typing, which is what happens when two writers have an online chat - there are no brief sentences; everything is at least two paragraphs long - and I found myself having a deeper conversation than any I have had in ages. As deep, in fact, as those I used to have, for hours and hours on the phone every night, with my childhood best friend.
I have long thought that Facebook is both a blessing and a curse. Yesterday, it was a blessing.
how nice
how nice
I think there is a place in settings where you can change it to not show when you are on-line. Then it's your choice if you want to chat with the people you see that are.
I think there is a place in settings where you can change it to not show when you are on-line. Then it's your choice if you want to chat with the people you see that are.
I totally agree Jane !!!
I totally agree Jane !!!
It is kind of a guilty pleasure. I made a page for my husband and now he's addicted as well. At least he won't be bothered by the time I spend on FB now. My plan is working perfectly. =)
It is kind of a guilty pleasure. I made a page for my husband and now he's addicted as well. At least he won't be bothered by the time I spend on FB now. My plan is working perfectly. =)
How timely this post is. My husband and I have recently gotten on Facebook. At times I enjoy it and other times I detest it (especially when I feel like a, "facebook widow" due to the long hours my husband spends there. He's aware though (thank goodness) so hopefully I will like/love facebook again.
How timely this post is. My husband and I have recently gotten on Facebook. At times I enjoy it and other times I detest it (especially when I feel like a, "facebook widow" due to the long hours my husband spends there. He's aware though (thank goodness) so hopefully I will like/love facebook again.
I always hide on Facebook too. I type too slow (I think) and am obsessed with correct spelling, etc before sending.
Just adjust yourself to "offline".
I always hide on Facebook too. I type too slow (I think) and am obsessed with correct spelling, etc before sending.
Just adjust yourself to "offline".
That's why I don't talk to people when they're online on Facebook; I always think I'm going to bother them! :p
That's why I don't talk to people when they're online on Facebook; I always think I'm going to bother them! :p
I don't like it either but it is the only I get to have a conversation with my adult children sometimes
Take what I can get in whatever form I can get it as a parents, eh?
I don't like it either but it is the only I get to have a conversation with my adult children sometimes
Take what I can get in whatever form I can get it as a parents, eh?
Jane, I love facebook. In late 2007 I found my childhood best friend too. Our relationship sounded just like the one you described. She got married in Nov 07 and her and husband came over to Englad to see me in November 2008. It was the first time we have seen each other face to face in 13 years and it was wonderful! Now we have our old relationship back on track (albeit via electronic links now). They are now expecting their first baby in July (slighlty jealous!!) and I feel like I'm so blessed to have them in my life. I am so grateful to facebook for that, may never have found her otherwise. xx
Jane, I love facebook. In late 2007 I found my childhood best friend too. Our relationship sounded just like the one you described. She got married in Nov 07 and her and husband came over to Englad to see me in November 2008. It was the first time we have seen each other face to face in 13 years and it was wonderful! Now we have our old relationship back on track (albeit via electronic links now). They are now expecting their first baby in July (slighlty jealous!!) and I feel like I'm so blessed to have them in my life. I am so grateful to facebook for that, may never have found her otherwise. xx
I have to admit to being a bit of a facebook addict. It am now in touch with so many people I used to know including the first guy I ever kissed and his friend, who was the one I really wanted! I am also completely addicted to Word Challenge which is a timed word scramble game. I spend entirely too much time trying to improve my score.
I have to admit to being a bit of a facebook addict. It am now in touch with so many people I used to know including the first guy I ever kissed and his friend, who was the one I really wanted! I am also completely addicted to Word Challenge which is a timed word scramble game. I spend entirely too much time trying to improve my score.
I agree Facebook is a double-edged sword. I receive pokes, hearts, awards, and other stuff from well-meaning people with more time on their hands. Bless them that they can enjoy Facebook, but it's difficult for one who uses Facebook to network and catch up with friends who've moved away. I hate hitting the ignore button, but when one has to pop into the shower to get ready for the day job-well, it's my only alternative.
Suzanne in CT
I agree Facebook is a double-edged sword. I receive pokes, hearts, awards, and other stuff from well-meaning people with more time on their hands. Bless them that they can enjoy Facebook, but it's difficult for one who uses Facebook to network and catch up with friends who've moved away. I hate hitting the ignore button, but when one has to pop into the shower to get ready for the day job-well, it's my only alternative.
Suzanne in CT